tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post5090847957763236985..comments2024-03-16T13:00:24.727-04:00Comments on A Blogger and a Father: My Neighbor Spanks Her ChildAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06473298272771049857noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-81679978570275141922010-01-06T03:58:24.189-05:002010-01-06T03:58:24.189-05:00I wondered how hard she is smacked when your not t...I wondered how hard she is smacked when your not there? The lighter smacking happens in public you may well find that its much harder in privatechild trust fundhttp://www.jumpsavings.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-52261057956750273952010-01-02T23:42:20.834-05:002010-01-02T23:42:20.834-05:00Well, something that has changed is the weather. T...Well, something that has changed is the weather. They live a few doors down but we hardly see them. For now, I have one less thing to worry about. With the baby having a cold, a fever, and an ear infection, I have enough to worry about.OMhttp://www.bloggerfather.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-61233981970391343052009-12-31T15:53:42.502-05:002009-12-31T15:53:42.502-05:00OM, I stumbled across this again.
Has anything ch...OM, I stumbled across this again.<br /><br />Has anything changed?<br /><br />I missed the heroin-addict part! OMG! I agree, that's a bigger issue ...<br /><br />Hopefully, that little girl will be influenced by seeing your thoughtful parenting.Shanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08494165783843863339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-38869952047165032482009-11-14T00:16:50.469-05:002009-11-14T00:16:50.469-05:00Fredd, who knows... On the one hand, what would be...Fredd, who knows... On the one hand, what would be Anon.'s motive in making this up? On the other hand, the internet is a big world, and there ARE a lot of weirdos here. I mean, if you knew how people found this post after a mismatched Google search you would lose all faith in humanity.OMhttp://www.bloggerfather.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-69115736490734043092009-11-13T23:18:40.023-05:002009-11-13T23:18:40.023-05:00I'm not sure I believe Anonymous, but who know...I'm not sure I believe Anonymous, but who knows for sure. Spanking with belts was the tried and true spanking method not so long ago, I was spanked with a belt as well 45 years ago, as were just about all of my friends back then. Belts, switches, razor straps, and I vividly recall watching various recalcitrant students receiving paddling on the backside with a canoe paddle at public Freddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10778430453468720627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-18074588502017608532009-11-13T22:27:20.903-05:002009-11-13T22:27:20.903-05:00Yikes... That's scary stuff. And I bet if you ...Yikes... That's scary stuff. And I bet if you ask her she'll say she doesn't have a choice but to hit her naked kids with a belt (and in front of other people too...) And she probably thinks they'll thank her one day. That's really sad. I don't blame you for staying away.OMhttp://www.bloggerfather.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-19717041291817884192009-11-12T02:53:06.596-05:002009-11-12T02:53:06.596-05:00I have a very good friend who would be the last pe...I have a very good friend who would be the last person in the world you'd think would be a spanker. But I was recently at her house when all three of her kids got a spanking (ages 3,6, and 8). She made her kids take off all their clothes and she used a belt. I can't believe someone could actually whip a naked child with a belt. It was very disturbing and I'm not sure I can Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-16491627651553666942009-11-06T22:43:57.124-05:002009-11-06T22:43:57.124-05:00Sebastien, only the Ivy League ones are expensive....Sebastien, only the Ivy League ones are expensive. But they will end up giving your kids more career options.OMhttp://www.bloggerfather.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-57785492870085426522009-11-03T12:47:01.952-05:002009-11-03T12:47:01.952-05:00Oh crap, Arson school is going to be expensive... ...Oh crap, Arson school is going to be expensive... you always have to throw a wrench in my plans! :)Sebastien Millonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06384643621878633512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-9410804734143358372009-11-02T22:50:46.022-05:002009-11-02T22:50:46.022-05:00Fredd, about the anonymous comment, I just Googled...Fredd, about the anonymous comment, I just Googled the first sentence, and of course, found that same exact comment on other blogs. I delete spam comments usually, but I couldn't find the spam, unless he or she was indeed the author of these books, in which case, good luck to them, marketing their self-published stuff one blog at a time.<br /><br />Sebastien, you'll need all the money youOMhttp://www.bloggerfather.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-18346963569689453022009-11-02T01:28:19.274-05:002009-11-02T01:28:19.274-05:00So you're trying to say that violence is not a...So you're trying to say that violence is not a problem solver? <br /><br />I am sooooo not with you on that one (checks gun rack on wall and smiles, remembering fond memories and all the problems my guns have helped me solve). <br /><br />Whenever I have kids, I won't spank them. I feel it sends the wrong message. There are other ways of punishing them, like messing with their heads and Sebastien Millonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06384643621878633512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-51638163800994987102009-10-28T16:26:02.656-04:002009-10-28T16:26:02.656-04:00OM, I'm with you on the no-spanking thing. It...OM, I'm with you on the no-spanking thing. It teaches children that hitting others is OK when they get older. And the spam 'drive-by' comment above by Anonymous, while weird and rambling, is not by a long shot the weirdest I've ever seen. This one is actually semi-relevant to your post, in a fumbling, stumbling sort of way.Freddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10778430453468720627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-46579747234661589912009-10-22T02:04:55.485-04:002009-10-22T02:04:55.485-04:00Honestly, Anonymous, that's the weirdest spam ...Honestly, Anonymous, that's the weirdest spam comment I've ever seen. You just do a search for the word Spanking and then paste your comment and continue to the next blog? What's your angle? Unless you're the author of these books, I don't get it. Strange.OMhttp://www.bloggerfather.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-45576633748682610372009-10-20T19:56:38.151-04:002009-10-20T19:56:38.151-04:00Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE:
Child but...Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE:<br /><br />Child buttock-battering for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.<br /><br />Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.<br /><br />I think the reason why television shows like "Supernanny" and "Dr. Phil" are so popular Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-17136457788583959692009-10-19T00:36:16.192-04:002009-10-19T00:36:16.192-04:00DGB, I know you're right because being honest ...DGB, I know you're right because being honest is always the right answer. There's no reason for me to get involved here, especially as I do believe that will all the problems in that house, that girl is not abused and is actually loved. But I believe the mother (and grandmother who also lives there and spanks the baby) will understand if I tell them I'm afraid my boy gets confused OMhttp://www.bloggerfather.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-4804238540142686942009-10-17T11:31:11.927-04:002009-10-17T11:31:11.927-04:00I understand where you're coming from. Though...I understand where you're coming from. Though your son is most likely going to learn that hitting is wrong through you and your reactions to it. <br /><br />I have a lot of conversations with my son that the rules that are for him aren't necessarily the same rules that other families have. <br /><br />Perhaps if you do speak to this parent, the way to go is to ask if it's possible DGBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01302995272029761401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-56983682142355605852009-10-17T00:46:08.869-04:002009-10-17T00:46:08.869-04:00Laane, I think the difference between spanking and...Laane, I think the difference between spanking and what I consider abuse is in the intent to harm. While I think it might feel the same to the child, at least the spanking parent thinks he or she is doing something right, while I see abuse as a consciously harmful act. But I understand what you're saying, and in the end, the negative result from spanking could be similar to the one from OMhttp://www.bloggerfather.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-55545809584022996892009-10-15T14:59:32.813-04:002009-10-15T14:59:32.813-04:00.... Hard to tell another parent how to parent. S....... Hard to tell another parent how to parent. So what can you say or do?DGBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01302995272029761401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-26471970547434056932009-10-15T14:57:53.235-04:002009-10-15T14:57:53.235-04:00Are you bothered because of the reaction of the ch...Are you bothered because of the reaction of the child? Or that your son is exposed to it? Or that you have such a different parenting philosophy that it's hard to be witness to this?<br /><br />Has your son said anything? Noticed it? <br /><br />There are a lot of variables here. Spanking is a big divisive issue.DGBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01302995272029761401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-17924888632189009772009-10-15T13:35:07.933-04:002009-10-15T13:35:07.933-04:00Wow. That makes me sad. Such a young kid to be the...Wow. That makes me sad. Such a young kid to be the recepient of violence. <br /><br />I feel very strongly about not spanking. It doesn't teach kids what they are supposed to do, it doesn't positively enforce the child-parent bond, it promotes the idea that violence is OK <br /><br />Do you think that going over and saying "I have seen you spank. Is everything OK? Do you need help (Shanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08494165783843863339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-44496697463578965262009-10-10T23:00:33.572-04:002009-10-10T23:00:33.572-04:00I can understand you so well.
I don't like spa...I can understand you so well.<br />I don't like spanking at all. <br />There are other ways to bring the message across.<br /><br />Here in The Netherlands we're able to report these situations so people get help from professionals.<br />Spanking is a form of child abuse.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09206799121622681828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-2158136849735878112009-10-10T22:49:57.825-04:002009-10-10T22:49:57.825-04:00Crustybeef, I'm sorry. Nothing can convince me...Crustybeef, I'm sorry. Nothing can convince me it's right to spank. I will give you that much though:<br /><br />1. Like I said on my first reply to you, any generalization is wrong. What was a by-the-way remark about homework has turned out to be the center of this post, which wasn't the plan. I'm sure people who spank once a year and people who spank routinely love their OMhttp://www.bloggerfather.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-38552143334628194992009-10-10T11:38:25.541-04:002009-10-10T11:38:25.541-04:00Sorry for the ramble..My husband's biggest com...Sorry for the ramble..My husband's biggest complaint--I am wayyy too detailed. :)CRUSTY MOM-Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16147045282174189951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-3757653509304890212009-10-10T11:35:48.150-04:002009-10-10T11:35:48.150-04:00I was spanked by my dad as a kid--i was given span...I was spanked by my dad as a kid--i was given spanks by the wooden spoon by my mom--that was what they were brought up on. They weren't abusive at all-in fact, they were the first to sit down with me and help me with homework, they were the first to teach me to respect them and they also allowed themselves to respect me--and my interests. My parents were spanked by their father's belts..CRUSTY MOM-Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16147045282174189951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6389679439326917475.post-67339436140056828212009-10-08T13:40:15.569-04:002009-10-08T13:40:15.569-04:00Daddy Files, I believe you when you say you've...Daddy Files, I believe you when you say you've done everything you could to prevent your son from sticking his finger in the socket, and then finally you used spanking as a last resort. I believe you, even though I wouldn't have done it. And I'm not judging a person who makes a tough, conscious decision to spank a child although hitting a child goes against his nature. But that's OMhttp://www.bloggerfather.comnoreply@blogger.com